Ever since I was very young when I became conscious of living and recognized that there was a whole, big world out there filled with all sorts of different places and people, I have been fascinated by the individual or personal human experience. I was intrigued by the expanses of space and geography and how I could be having my very own personal experiences and everyone else in the world was having theirs–at essentially the same time. I was perplexed on how there were billions of people doing things, saying things, etc., and I was not part of them… not there to see it, hear it or feel it.

I used to try to imagine what it would be like to truly experience what someone else was experiencing. I wondered what it would be like to see the world through others’ eyes, and how I could somehow transpose myself into someone else’s body to see what it was like to be someone else or know at any given time not only what someone else was doing, but was part of their experience.

Maybe social media serves as that “transporter” for now and gets us closer but this still is, in a sense, one dimensional or only bi-directional. We may be able to share or be in real time and space connected through some digital interface, but not quite able to have an inter-person experience–where we experience someone’s feelings and really know what it is like to be that other person, to be in that other place, etc. This is sort of the ultimate real experience of walking in someone else’s shoes. This poses an interesting question. Are we are ever meant to have that type of experience. Maybe not. You only need your own looking glass. 

I think fairly early on in my life I realized that each one of us is indescribably unique and we are not meant to be somewhere else, be someone else or have someone else’s experiences while in this physical space. We are who we are and where we are at any given moment for a reason.

Regardless of where you are or who you are with, your experiences–what you feel, how you interpret what you see or what you hear–are explicitly and authentically yours. No one can have them or replicate them just as you cannot have or replicate someone else’s experiences. There is something special about that, almost sacred.

Really no one else in the entire world can feel exactly what you feel. No one else can do what you do, think like you think or express themselves like you. This is amazing, perplexing and intriguing all rolled up together… and maybe meant to be.

Each one of us is a unique being experiencing the journey of our lives. It’s this uniqueness and individualism that contributes to the diversity of our world and how we enrich each others lives. I don’t think we should underestimate the importance and value of this. So as fascinating as it is to think what it would be like to be someone else, to see through their eyes, feel their emotions, to be in their consciousness, we should contemplate if would we want someone in ours.

Instinct–a natural desire or tendency that makes you want to act in a particular way or a way of thinking and feeling that is not learned–overall is a good thing. Instincts whisper or sometimes shout to us what we should do, say or be. They tell us when something feels good or right. They also tell us when something does not feel so good or right, or when things feel off and that there are missing pieces. This missing pieces thing is hard.

I do think that listening–really listening–to your instincts is a good thing. It can save you a lot of contemplating, worrying and over thinking, and can be enlightening and directional. But when your instincts are telling you that something is not adding up or making sense you can feel confused or sad–and even feel uncertain and alone–and fairly quickly might I add. And it’s so difficult sometimes to let that just be especially when it hurts your heart.

You go on this emotional journey of trying to reconcile what you are feeling, examining your thoughts, actions and words. You take a deep dive into yourself to see what you might be able to do to find the answer or to find the pieces that are missing. But you just can’t. 

“When Your Energy vibrates at a frequency that is in direct alignment with what the universe has been attempting to deliver your entire life, you begin to live in the flow and true miracles start to happen.”
~Panache Desai

This week I want to focus on energy. Over the past year I have written about energy, I have touched upon energy on an individual level, including that we as humans are energy and that we embody and are a source of energy. I have touched upon management of one’s energy. I have also touched upon energy on a universal level, sharing with you aspects of collective energy and the benefits of tapping into positive waves of energy and good intentions.

And I have shared a fundamental Universal truth about energy exchange that we attract the energy that we are sending out. This is commonly interpreted as positive energies attract positive energies and negative energies attract negative energies. But there is a deepness to the topic of energy and energy exchange that I would like to explore with you.

Energy exists all around us. Every aspect of our world is made up of energy in varying degrees of vibration. From the Divine energy that created our souls to judgmental or manipulative energy, the energy that surrounds us and is within us is constantly moving, redefining and evolving us.

Energy is the substance that makes up life and it comes from within each of us. In every interaction we are experiencing an energy exchange. This energy exchange can be so subtle that most times we are not aware of it. Other times we may feel it physically, for instance in the form of feeling exhausted post a confrontation or a thrilling experience. And most of us know that if we dwell in a state of emotion or energy of fear, sadness, worry, etc., that we seem to attract or perpetuate this in our lives. We feel in a funk or notice that our preponderance to worry about certain things tends to create a series of events that are manifestations of that worry. If we function in a state of emotion or energy of positivity, hope, or calm, we attract more of the positive outcomes associated with this energy. 

We, however, live in a physical world or dimension where we are ascending to our true Selves and reconciling our physical beings with our souls, and people of the world are at different states in this process. Sometimes this creates a competition for energy, as we try to find or fulfill a physical or emotional void when we forget that we have an unlimited energy source within ourselves and where we look to others to fill that void.

Even when a person is loving towards another, he or she can feel drained of energy, as he or she may be giving so much to the other. They think love comes from another when it actually comes from within–from within themselves as a divine source of energy. Energy flows through us and is not from a limited source that can be depleted. If we think of love as a form of energy, we should not fear its loss, as there will always be an abundance of it within us and around us.

Our energies fluctuate within ourselves and between others based on our interactions, intentions, state of mind, and circumstances. It takes focus, reflection and some effort to be grounded, to be in-tune with or understand why we are feeling certain ways, to bring ourselves back to center and to be energetically refueled.

Daily interactions with people and the energy exchanges that go hand-in-hand with this provides us with growth. We need to recognize that an energy exchange is happening and be cautious not to surrender our energy to those who are trying to manipulate it for their own purpose. Now is the time to recognize the situation for what it is and have compassion. Through compassion and understanding we overcome manipulation.

In the daily exchange of energy, sometimes we are victims, sometimes problem solvers and rescuers, sometimes manipulators and sometimes the manipulated. Throughout life we have a role in this energy exchange. To not get caught up in energy competition or struggle, we need to release the need to control or have power over others. It is best to observe what comes to us without reacting, to have trust in the Universe and that what is happening is for our highest good. This is when we use our free will to act, versus re-act. This is when we will be able to tap into the power of knowing all things.

Now is the time to take ownership of the energy that you put out in the world.