“You are everything that is, your thoughts, your life, your dreams come true. You are everything you choose to be. You are as unlimited as the endless universe.”

~ Shad Helmstetter

In many of the posts that I have written I talk about such things as the current physical world in which we live, multiple dimensions and ascension. I have also shared thoughts on intention, living consciously and the power of choice.  As humans mostly having our experiences in the third dimension, although we are becoming enlightened and are ascending, we tend to still view our lives as a collection or a series of linear experiences.

We define what has happened as memories, what is happening now as real or in real time and what will happen as the unknown or an aspiration. What I would like to explore with you is the concept of the here and now and that there is an array of parallel experiences for you here and now, and that this is where intent and choice come into play.

To help you think about this, think about your experiences from the vantage point of the multitude of radio or satellite stations to which you have access. As you are driving you may search the stations to find something to listen to—be it music, the news or a talk show. You choose to listen to a station and may stay with it for awhile or it may bore you or it may not be of interest to you and you turn the dial. But you know at any given moment that there are multiple broadcasts (choices) going on at the very same time.

At any given moment, there are an unimaginable number of things going on in the world at the same time—sports events, concerts, meetings, classes, dinners, shopping, work, etc. You, as a being mostly experiencing your life in the linear third dimension, experience where you may be or what you are doing, but you know that there are over seven billion people (world population) having their experiences right where they are as well. 

A way of looking at this is that there are alternate realities that exist parallel to our own and we are all co-existing with other realities. This affords us free will or choice, and practicing this choice consciously with intention creates your reality. What you do, how you do it and where you do it are all choices made completely by you, and it creates your here and now.

In creating your reality you can have anything you choose. But note, there is an element of consistency that is needed over a period of time. There is a factor that allows us to alter or change our minds before we get what we ask for or want to create. There are many of you who may question why what you think or say you want to create has not yet been realized. You need to take a hard look at the consistency of your intent and actions.

It very well could be that you are still in a “buffer zone” where you are unconsciously figuring out what you really want to create or what your human self thinks it wants is not really aligned with your higher Self or purpose. It is very important to be careful and conscious on what you want to create as your reality, especially if what you want to manifest has not been seriously and well thought out or visualized. As the old adage goes, be careful of what you ask for.

As we are co-existing with other realities, there are lines or veils between realities and we exclude non-relevant realities from our consciousness. As we are evolving from the third dimension in which we experience life fueled by such lower frequencies as fear, anger, uncertainty, jealousy, etc., in the construct of duality and in a linear modality to the fourth (the gateway dimension) to a fifth dimension, there is a thinning between dimensional realities. In this state, time will no longer be experienced in a linear manner and these lines will slowly fade.

In such a time, it is important to first understand this is happening and also to choose wisely among your realities, deeply considering what non-chosen reality you leave behind as you advance toward your chosen reality and direct your own destiny. Creating your here and now requires that you take responsibility for your choices and for you to realize what you choose is going to be what you manifest.

How more often then not that we drift uneasy into our night’s sleep with way too many thoughts running through our minds. We play over encounters from the day and the little (or big) dramas. We put more things on the next day’s “to-do” list that we did not get done. We think about times past, what we missed, wish we did or where we would like to be. And we put ourselves fully in yesterday or the next day thinking about what we have to do or sometimes dreading some where we have to be. First of all—not a good way to fall into sleep, but more so this sets us up so that within the first few seconds of our mornings our minds kick into high gear carrying over the thoughts from the night before, and we may actually start to fear the day.

You know that feeling—you wake up and your body feels a bit heavy, your head is fuzzy and you push yourself to get yourself in motion. Within the first very few precious moments of your new day, you have lost the joy of jumping into the day. You pre-loaded the day with expectations, doubt, uncertainty and fear.

This is really no way to start each new day, and we need to flip this mindset.  Think how amazing it is to wake up and feel excited about the day ahead and being in a state of mind where you embrace and look forward to the new experiences that await you.  Think how empowering it is to step into your day with confidence and strength. Think about how gratifying it is to be in the actual moments of your day.

Overall our lives in this physical dimension are a collection or succession of continuous single, unique days. The lives we chose to live in this dimension are determined by how we choose to spend each day. 

With many things going on in life it can be challenging to feel charged for the day ahead—but the more I practice getting in this mind set that the more I realize it is about intention and putting in some effort. It’s not always easy to keep the loud noise from vibrating in my head, to turn down the volume and clear my mind. It takes practice to ease into your evening or night, to quiet yourself, as well as to stop your mind from going into overdrive within the first few minutes after you wake up. Deep conscious breathing and still or active meditation does help.

I think sometimes of the times in my life where days came and went and I was functioning in an over scripted routine—letting worry, frustration, anxiety and fear drive me–where I was rushing just to sit in traffic. Rushing to get the morning work out in. Running from meeting to meeting. Eating lunch at my desk for weeks if not months on end. Rushing to be places as if it would be the end of the world if I was late a few minutes.

Jumping ahead in my thoughts so much that I was not really listening and hearing people. This current physical life is a bit too short to be going through each of my new days like this. So—I stopped. Over the past few years I have worked to change by mindset—and focus on each day as a gift and to embrace my days for the potential they hold. I have made the decision not to start each day from a point of fear, worry or expectation.

Do I always get it “right.” Well, of course not. But in being fortunate to get another day, I hit the reset button. And I have to say over a few years, I have made lasting changes for the better—and I don’t lose sight that I will make the most of each day in the context of that day—rain or shine, crazy busy or slow, red lights and green lights and everything in between.

“When times are tough is matters not that we forget we are infinite beings. What matters most is how quickly we remember.”

~ Gail Lynne Goodwin

All too often in the midst of challenging situations, difficult times or when we are at a crossroads in a season of our lives we lose sight that we are indeed infinite beings, and we wrap ourselves up in worry, fear and doubt. We inject into our thoughts and actions criticism, judgement, blame and jealousy. And we may start to overthink things, think that everything matters and we get emotionally paralyzed.

Some words of wisdom—it matters not. All what you get hyper-focused on, run through your head hundreds of times trying to play out every possible scenario, all the “what if’s” and all the worry and the “mistakes” or “mis-judgements” you think you may make—matter not.

As I talked about in the past, there are no such things as mistakes. We are all complete and have the information and knowledge we need built right inside our Selves. We experience, and those experiences open the channels through which knowledge and knowing can flow. When we think and function as if everything matters, we block those channels.

So often we worry about what people think about us or what they may say. We put too much emphasis on what we may think of as “mistakes” we made. We live in other’s expectations, comparing ourselves to others or in the state of judgement. 

In this physical existence, we live in a world of demands, places to be, things to do, and often in a world of arbitrary or self-imposed deadlines. We allow ourselves to get pulled into other peoples dramas, urgencies and sometimes “busy work”. If we are not living consciously or in a state of self awareness, we can get lost in this maze—and start to worry, live in doubt and anxiety and lose ourselves.

I ask that you take a breath, ground yourself and reflect on the concept of it matters not.

Think of “it matters not” not as a synonym for lack of, or without judgement, but for acceptance. It matters not allows you the freedom of your expression of yourself with no limitations—and not concerning yourself with the choices or the expressions of others. It is not not caring. It is about being true to yourself and not being threatened by difference.

For example, it matters not that you may have friends or family that have a different philosophy or way of thinking. It matters not that your experiences are different from others. What is important is not to incorporate the expression of being threatened or being fearful by difference into your existence.

Remember you are an infinite being, and as an infinite being you create every experience in your life. When you believe that everything you think, say or do matters and worry; anxiety and fear accompanies what you think, say or do, you are giving away your power to lower vibrations of self blame and judgement. Through your thoughts you are choosing your reality, and if you are not pleased with your reality, take some time to reflect on your thoughts and your emotions.

Today, let go of “it matters” and move to a state of self acceptance, knowing that you can change your current state of reality and realize clarity and peace.

“There are no mistakes, no coincidence. All events are blessings given to us to learn from.”

~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

The common, and unfortunately accepted, definition of the word mistake is an error in action, calculation, opinion, or judgment caused by poor reasoning, carelessness or insufficient knowledge.

The words in the definition wrap the concept of mistake in other types of thoughts and actions such as opinion, judgement and lack of knowledge that leave us not feeling very good about the whole thing or ourselves. So much so that there has been and continues to be advice or encouragement imparted by many to let us know that it is OK to make mistakes as long as we learn from them, and that everyone makes mistakes. But overall, it all carries a negative connotation and can even have us put more pressure on ourselves or think less of ourselves.

We need to break out of this mindset—the mindset that mistakes exist and the action of judging ourselves by what or how we “do” when we think or someone else thinks we messed up, we failed or did something “wrong.”  We need to stop heeding the advice that mistakes are how you learn—and that carry this unspoken warning of “but make sure it doesn’t happen again.” This breeds fear, imposed by yourself; and living your life and approaching all you do in this state is unhealthy and is not what the Universe meant for you. You need to flip the paradigm and stop thinking in duality—mistake or accuracy, mistake or correctness. 

Everyday we are growing, evolving and ascending. Everyday there are opportunities to build more awareness and understanding. This happens through our experiences and how we flow through these experiences. It is not about making course corrections in your life to try to get it back on track so you can reach your final destination. First, you are on track, and more importantly, there isn’t a final destination. There are many destinations—places to be for sometimes a short stay and sometimes for a longer stay. Along your life, embracing and accepting them all is fundamental.

In your experiences there are things you do or don’t do—all in the context of a moment or even seasons of your life.  All is as it is to be—and nothing is a mistake. All experiences move us forward, even in the moments when it may not feel that way. And if you are experiencing repeats or similar situations, feelings and emotions it is not that you are repeating what you may define as mistakes, there are however some things in your life that you need to experience until you get from them what you need to know to be able to move on.

So I ask that you drop the thought and word mistake from your vocabulary. The word mistake can be toxic. Have faith that everything you go through grows you—and nothing you have done, do or will do will ever be a mistake.

“Some people create their own storms then get mad when it rains.”

~ Unknown

Having drama in your life is a choice. We all know people who create drama, and who actually thrive on it. It is almost like they cannot function without it. They may complain and seek to avoid what they may think is the unnecessary drama in their lives but what they fail to do is to look at themselves and take steps to stop creating it.

So let’s look at why people keep generating drama in their lives—and unfortunately bring it with them into their interactions and relationships. They act out their drama at work, at school, at home, etc., trying to pull others around them in to be part of the scene and to applaud their efforts in “trying” to navigate the challenging situation or solving the problem. For many, they create drama even during stable or calm seasons in their lives. Why? Addiction to excitement, Boredom, Insecurity, Letting their ego drive their lives.  They strive for calm, peace and happiness, but when they may be living it, it is not enough.

One way to look at it is that they get so used to the inflation in their states of drama—proving that they are right, being the victim to attract attention, trying to control people or situations. This happens when one operates by the influence of external events or circumstances, rather than by the higher Self.

To them drama is just like a habit. Just like other “bad” or unhealthy habits, some people keep feeding them. When we are not happy with ourselves, where we may be in life or feel uninspired or unmotivated, there is a tendency by some to look to external sources or situations to stir things up. Also when a life is filled with negativity, some will be drawn to more negativity. When lost, hurt or afraid, some can be more susceptible to drama as well. 

If you see yourself in a drama filled life, you need to take a look at your life, and ask yourself (and be honest about your response) if you want to eliminate the drama. Be honest about being drawn to drama and how you may be creating and perpetuating it. Is it easier for you to be the “victim” or to blame others? Do you get an adrenaline rush from drama (even if you say you can not tolerate it)?

If you want to break out of the drama state, first understand that drama as a habit or addiction—like any habit or addiction—will take time to break, and if you are wired to be the drama “king” or “queen” it will be best to consciously and continuously work at it.  Reflect and take a deep dive into yourself to identify and accept why you keep creating and feeding drama. Find peace in yourself—let the past go and stop blaming others.

If you are creating drama to fill a void or because you are bored, try to fill that void with something else—mix up your routine, try something new and calm your mind. You can actually free up space in your life by removing drama. Distance yourself from others who feed off of your drama or tempt you with their drama. It is also important to let go of expectations that you may have about what other people should be like or do, or that everyone needs to agree with you.  Accept things as they are.

In closing, I ask that you think about this. Drama does not just show up in your life. You create it, invite it or associate with others who bring it. And know that you do have the ability and the strength to redirect your energy away from drama.

“Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.”

~ Nathaniel Hawthorne

Today many people try to find answers to what they think are their woes, or what will make them happy, rich, satisfied, successful, etc., in an “out-of-the-box” solution.  Many are programmed to seek answers from someone else. Think about it. There are all sorts of messages being thrown at us every day to make us feel like we are missing something and tell us subliminally or overtly that we are not what we should be or where we should be.

We have all seen the headlines of the ads and articles . . .

The Secrets to Financial Success

How to Land the Perfect Job

How to be Happy

What Every Parent Should Know

What You Don’t Know about (fill in the blank) that Will Hurt You

This list of admonitions that suggest we are lacking knowledge or insight and that we need some expert to provide us with all the answers—and worse, have us believing that if we do not act immediately, we will never find love, our purpose, our fame or fortune. A fear-based paradigm filled with uncertainty and doubt enters our lives.  And we believe that we do not have the knowledge or internal resourcefulness, and until we find answers from some external physical source, we’ll never know—destined to be in a constant state of searching, feeling lost and unhappy. 

There are many institutions today that want it this way—to keep the populous unsure, disempowered and preoccupied looking for happiness, and to have us thinking we are not good enough, smart enough, strong enough, etc.  And we fall into the trap of the power brokers wanting us to stay in some unenlightened state.

For sure, there are many good resources available that can aid people in helping themselves, and learning and exploring throughout life is a good thing, but think how often we fall prey to believing that some personal or professional assessment tool, executive, life, or personal coach, some consultant, family member or friend, etc., will show us the way and give us all the answers. Just as we may start to feel good again or we are making progress something happens in our lives that introduces doubt, fear and uncertainty, and we fall back into a cycle of looking for answers outside of ourselves.

Maybe it is easier this way since looking outside of ourselves to someone or something else gives us someone or something to blame if we don’t think we succeeded. It removes responsibility from ourselves about our Selves. Maybe it is because we think is will be faster or easier if “someone else” does the work for us, tells us what to do and how to do it—and provides us with some advertised magic formula. But there is no magic formula—unless you know that you yourself are the magic formula. You have all the answers for the unique you. No one else does.

You have to remember that no amount of validation, advice, or external support will change that you alone need to choose solutions or answers to what you deem as your challenges and then find the strength within yourself to implement them. All the words, programs, tools or advisors in the world cannot change the fact that sometimes you just need to sit with your feelings, to reflect and to have the answers you seek come to you.

We all have been around or encountered people who are self-absorbed, function in their own world or just seem oblivious to others. Their needs or wants, words, actions and behaviors are void of awareness of the impact others. They are wrapped up in themselves or particular set of circumstances, and sometimes can seem ungrateful and selfish.

Those around them can feel unappreciated and even alienated. Sure, there are some stressful times or circumstances where people can lose sight of what and who is around them. They become so overwhelmed by the situation and challenges that they are facing that they sort of zone out of any situational or emotional awareness. These are extreme circumstances and for the most part are quite understandable.

What I’m talking more about are the people who routinely have a lack of self awareness and really do not see the impact of what they are doing or saying on those around them. Regardless of the topic being discussed, it always has to come back to them or be about them. They drive through encounters with blinders on and moving full steam ahead to their endpoint insensitive to others on the path with them.  They overstep personal boundaries. They take and never give. They are so entrenched in themselves they fail to have gratitude or be kind. 

We can go into a lot of analysis on what is driving this type of behavior—fear, lack of confidence, hurt, anger, etc. And, yes, there is good amount of self reflection to be had. But when you are in the same space with the self-centered or situationally and emotionally unaware, it can be quite trying and it’s easy to have the WTF moments. If it’s chronic, you might want to speak up and point out what’s going on—with the advice that it may be time for some self-awareness to kick in.

One of the hallmarks of self-awareness is the ability to understand the impact you have on others. Many people go through their entire lives only thinking of their own immediate needs and what will affect them directly. They react to their environment based not on their dreams and wishes but with unconscious thoughts, feelings and actions.

That said, it is wise to check in with yourself once in a while on your self awareness and to make sure that you are not falling into a self-awareness void. The more you pay attention to your emotions and how you work, the better you will understand why you do the things you do.  Recognizing and understanding your emotions will help you get to the place where it will be impossible for your emotions to rule or control you.

Check in on your mindfulness. Mindfulness is the energy that helps you recognize the happiness and contentment that already exists in your life. When you are caught up in worries, fears, anger, the past or the future, you are not mindful of where you are at any particular time. With this, try to slow it down and reduce the multi-tasking. Stop overbooking yourself. It’s OK to do a little less and put some space between things or “to-dos.” Try to stop worrying about the future, what you will say next and overthinking. And stop reliving your past.

If you understand and accept your emotions. reflect and take time to be in the moment, the self-absorption trap can be alleviated. And you might be in a better place to give some helpful hints to those who are chronically self-absorbed—or at least understand where they may be at.

“Some changes happen deep down inside of you. And the truth is, only you know about them.”

― Judy Blume, Tiger Eyes

Sometimes our spirits seem not to be enjoying this earthly experience, and sometimes we can find ourselves even resenting our current physical incarnations. We long for a fog to be lifted, energy to rise and new found peace. This state happens when your mind, body and soul are not aligned or in sync. And to get them to be in sync you need to make It personal, and to live in harmony with your true nature—your Self.  Here is where you transcend limitations and doubt and cease to identify with fear and lower emotional states.

Making it personal has a few meanings in the context of syncing up your mind, body and soul. One is that making it personal gives you the drive and the passion to work toward an improved mind, body and soul relationship. Think about it this way. We invest our energies and we make deep and sustainable commitments when something deeply matters to us because we are directly impacted. I’m not talking about selfish or ego-driven wants, but about an issue, cause or belief that is exclusive to you for meaningful and real change.

Which leads me to the other context for making it personal. We are all unique beings. We are all “wired” differently. We may share common attributes or characteristics, but what we feel deep inside, what we think, how we behave, etc., are all very special to us. Our thoughts, words and actions—and our body, mind and soul relationships cannot be duplicated or shared. So if you find your Self out of alignment, it is only you who can work to get your mind, body and soul in harmony.

I know that sometimes it may not feel like it, but it is really a privilege to be on earth at this time of ascension and evolution. Of course there are seasons when it may be difficult or challenging in the physicality of you—but you should not lose sight that you have the means and the power to make change.

The Mind

The mind is a very powerful tool and when out of balance it can lead to anxiety, fear, worry and even withdrawal. When in balance our mind can stimulate creativity, enhance intuition and provide drive and motivation. It is important to find time to calm your mind, as well as to nourish it with positive thought and challenge it with new concepts and ideas.

The Body

Our bodies are amazing vessels that allow us to physically move about the world. When not in a state of well being, it can lead to physical symptoms and weakened immunity. Just as we need to nourish our minds, we need to nourish our bodies with a healthy diet, exercise and being physically active and rest.

The Soul

Our souls are our energy or life force that lives within all of us. Our souls are so powerful that they can never be destroyed. The purpose of our soul (or spirit body) is to grow and evolve. Though our souls cannot be destroyed, they can and will shift or morph—as we ascend. And as we nourish and care for our minds and bodies, we do need to nurture our souls as well. Our souls can be nurtured by the practice of gratitude, learning the power of self-love, embracing who you are and learning acceptance and forgiveness, and seeking ways to find your spiritual grounding (in meditation, quiet time, being outdoors.)

We all have the potential to heal and transform ourselves through our thoughts, words and actions—through our perceptions and choices. If you are feeling tired, out of sync, frustrated, upset or overall not well, take time to seriously examine your mind, body and soul relationship and one day at a time begin to take simple steps to bring them into better alignment. And the first step is to make this personal—it is your journey and only you will know and experience the transformation deep inside of you.