“Some people create their own storms then get mad when it rains.”

~ Unknown

 

Having drama in your life is a choice. We all know people who create drama, and who actually thrive on it. It is almost like they cannot function without it. They may complain and seek to avoid what they may think is the unnecessary drama in their lives but what they fail to do is to look at themselves and take steps to stop creating it.

So let’s look at why people keep generating drama in their lives—and unfortunately bring it with them into their interactions and relationships. They act out their drama at work, at school, at home, etc., trying to pull others around them in to be part of the scene and to applaud their efforts in “trying” to navigate the challenging situation or solving the problem. For many, they create drama even during stable or calm seasons in their lives. Why? Addiction to excitement, Boredom, Insecurity, Letting their ego drive their lives.  They strive for calm, peace and happiness, but when they may be living it, it is not enough.

One way to look at it is that they get so used to the inflation in their states of drama—proving that they are right, being the victim to attract attention, trying to control people or situations. This happens when one operates by the influence of external events or circumstances, rather than by the higher Self.

To them drama is just like a habit. Just like other “bad” or unhealthy habits, some people keep feeding them. When we are not happy with ourselves, where we may be in life or feel uninspired or unmotivated, there is a tendency by some to look to external sources or situations to stir things up. Also when a life is filled with negativity, some will be drawn to more negativity. When lost, hurt or afraid, some can be more susceptible to drama as well. 

If you see yourself in a drama filled life, you need to take a look at your life, and ask yourself (and be honest about your response) if you want to eliminate the drama. Be honest about being drawn to drama and how you may be creating and perpetuating it. Is it easier for you to be the “victim” or to blame others? Do you get an adrenaline rush from drama (even if you say you can not tolerate it)?

If you want to break out of the drama state, first understand that drama as a habit or addiction—like any habit or addiction—will take time to break, and if you are wired to be the drama “king” or “queen” it will be best to consciously and continuously work at it.  Reflect and take a deep dive into yourself to identify and accept why you keep creating and feeding drama. Find peace in yourself—let the past go and stop blaming others.

If you are creating drama to fill a void or because you are bored, try to fill that void with something else—mix up your routine, try something new and calm your mind. You can actually free up space in your life by removing drama. Distance yourself from others who feed off of your drama or tempt you with their drama. It is also important to let go of expectations that you may have about what other people should be like or do, or that everyone needs to agree with you.  Accept things as they are.

In closing, I ask that you think about this. Drama does not just show up in your life. You create it, invite it or associate with others who bring it. And know that you do have the ability and the strength to redirect your energy away from drama.