“The Universe is full of magical things patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper”

– Eden Phillpotts

As you navigate and evolve through your change process—and through life in general—there will be periods when you feel like you are in a “place” too long or even stuck. You may even feel as if you are waiting, waiting for a universal change that will lighten you or catapult you forward; waiting for a blocked channel to clear or a new path to open.

These are times when you need to reflect and deeply examine why you may be feeling this way—and also to be honest with yourself about where you are in the change process. The process of change is, well, a process and change is a constant—even when you do not feel like change is actually happening. You need to make sure that you are letting yourself gently move through the process—through self reflection, moments of clarity, the “re-minds” and evolving to new phases—taking with you what you have learned and what you have experienced… the constant refinement of you—to another phase.

This can be difficult when you try to measure this or define it by time—and find yourself feeling like you are waiting or anxious for something to happen to let you know you “have arrived” in a new phase, place, etc., or for negative energy to be released from the space you are in.  I can’t stress enough that what you are doing—in setting intention, riding waves of energy, being true to yourself—are all a constant, and they can’t be viewed as something you can check off the check list or be measured by time. The beauty is how all these things and actions add to the fabric of you and how they help you to grow and evolve—aka, the constant state of change.

But we all find ourselves feeling like we are in a “state of waiting.” This is human nature, especially as we consciously are working on ourselves—to change, to realize the intentions we set, to learn to love ourselves, to be the best version of ourselves. Letting yourself move through the process and embracing the cycles of change is a mind-set, as is how we think about waiting. Waiting, really should not be thought of as together with patience; patience defined as bearing unfortunate and burdensome circumstances in a state of waiting for good things to come—in the simplistic view that “good things come to those who wait.”

These feelings of waiting—when you are feeling like you are in a place or space too long or are anxious to move forward—provides you the opportunity to evolve. Think of it as active waiting. When you are feeling like you are waiting, this does not mean you can’t do or are not doing anything or thinking anything—you are not simply just waiting. Waiting—let’s call it active waiting—especially when you are feeling anxious or stuck are pieces of the process that allow you more time for reflection, examining your intentions and taking stock of your emotions.

In this active waiting you will discover that you have evolved or that there may be some unresolved issues you need to still work through. In periods of active waiting, new people may be put on your path that even in a simple or quick encounter touch your heart, make you think, give you a different perspective—add to the fabric of you. In periods of active waiting you may have new experiences—and they may be so subtle like just being in the moment of noticing the stars on a clear night or taking the time to really say or receive a kind thank-you.

Through active waiting you are still doing—working, planning, dreaming; and, yes, at times taking needed rest for your mind, heart and soul. In periods of waiting you may need to be right where you are to help or give to others—as we are all part of something much larger than ourselves. Think of active waiting as preparing you for the next phases of change, of what may come your way—as providing you with building blocks and stepping stones to a best version of you and also to a best version of you in this human connected universe.

“It takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are”
– E. E. Cummings

As you progress through the process of change (Embracing Your Inner Warrior of Change) and work within your change framework (Personal Framework for Change) you need to be true to yourself; to act in accordance with who you are and what you believe. I know this may be a confusing concept when you are intentionally making change in yourself, driven from within you, and you may be thinking “I’m making change since I do not like something about me or my life.” Try not to confuse making change in yourself or life with being true to yourself. Actually, one way to look at it is that your drive or inspiration for change may be being fueled by you not being true to yourself.

So what does being true to yourself mean?

It means having the courage to love (Love Thy Self) yourself and accept yourself–not as someone else thinks you should be or comparing yourself to others, but truly being the best version of you. It means not giving into the pressures of others or pretending to be someone you are not just to be accepted, to fit in or be liked, etc. It means doing things that are genuine and a reflection of your authentic self. It means self-respect and functioning in your framework, but more importantly working within your nature and how you are “wired”– how you think, how you process information; following your value and belief systems; appreciating and developing your unique skills and talents; accepting that being different is a gift; and understanding yourself and loving yourself. Being true to yourself allows you to embrace your uniqueness and individuality and allows you to shine–and to be at peace.

Today there are many pressures to be something we are not because we mistakenly think it makes life “easier” if we go along with the masses or what we think will get us ahead or make us be happier. When we do this we start not only to set false expectations for ourselves, we sometimes start to live these false expectations and we lose who we are, our uniqueness and our individual beauty. We start to feel unhappy, confused, out of place, or just in a meaningless cycle of routine, and this spills over into all that makes up our lives–work, personal relationships, family, etc.

And it can manifest negativity and unhealthy habits. And it even can get us thinking that we just want to leave everything behind. But leaving everything behind is not the answer and will not solve the problem. The solution is to make the change in the one place where you can–within yourself. You set your intentions–and those intentions need to be rooted in your genuine self–and where you are being true to yourself.

Being true to yourself does require self reflection and introspection. It calls for you to be grounded (Grounding Yourself), and to learn to love yourself, and to be true to the very best that is you and to live within your highest values. It is listening to and following the language of your soul.

As January and a new year rolled in, we have been focused on the theme of change–embracing change, understanding and accepting that change comes from within, and the gift of riding the wave of positive intentions and good will as a new year starts to fuel your change. Now that we are a few weeks into the year, and most of us have gone back to our daily routines–that momentum of change can be difficult to keep.

There are deadlines, commitments, and what feels like the growing and endless list of “to-dos.” We try to work into our daily lives the change we want to make, and sometimes we get distracted, delayed, etc. And we think that having a plan for change will help. But for many this becomes yet another “to-do”. So, we must not think of change as a “to do” or put it on a list.

Change is a process and does come from within. And as we noted in the post on “Embracing Your Inner Warrior of Change,” we do need to re-orient our thinking so that we value and embrace change. But also always remember that change is a process that needs time and can’t be rushed. Just like the waves of the ocean there are ebbs and flows and other forces (like lunar phases and weather systems that impact the intensity, size and force of those waves) that impact the waves of your change.

At Warrior Rx we find a positive way to embrace and pursue personal change is not to do so in the paradigm of a plan. Plans mean milestones, deadlines, dates, etc. And when you don’t meet those it can feel like you have failed, can’t seem to get things going in the “right direction, and become disappointed in yourself–or worse lose your drive for change.

The journey of change should be done in the mindset of a framework. There are many definitions of frameworks, and the two we like are: “a set of assumptions, concepts, values, and practices that constitutes a view in reality” and “a structure supporting or containing something”. So think of the “something” as you–your likes, dislikes; your personality; what inspires you; what motivates you; your skills; how you function–e.g., night owl or morning lark, etc. And think of the set of assumptions, concepts, values and practices as your intentions and ideas; your purpose for change; and things you can and will do in your process of change–that take your reality into consideration.

Frameworks are more like guides. They are flexible and not prescribed. They are gentle and kind–and forgiving. Imagine your personal framework as the frame of a house when it’s being built. It will hold you and the many pieces of your life. Imagine how the rooms will be filled. Frameworks let you use your imagination and yet think and act within a reasonable, but yet open and fluid, structure. Let your personal framework for change reflect and embrace you.

Put your journey of change in the mindset of a framework–not a plan. Let your framework serve as your roadmap, with very first steps of and keeping conscious always self-inquiry and self-exploration. Let your personal framework support and comfort you, while giving you the freedom to go down new or different paths, float in and out of rooms, and to see the rooms differently; to adjust and find peace and acceptance when you adjust. After all, as you journey through your change, new discoveries, insights, opportunities and even challenges will happen. These will evolve you, give you the gift of looking out of different windows, and sometimes and point you in new directions.

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment.”
– Henry David Thoreau

This is the time of year–the beginning of a new year–that many of us make resolutions and put out to the universe that we are going to change. Change our health habits, change our routines, change ourselves–make change so we become improved versions of our current selves and lead more meaningful lives.

It’s hard to not only make these resolutions and embrace them, but harder to keep them alive. Some of us reject the New Year’s resolution thing all together–be it from a place of fear or thinking it’s a silly tradition and not wanting to be take part in a collective of commitments that fade over time.

But there is something to be said about this time of the year. When literally billions of people one by one are creating a form of tremendous positive energy with their resolutions–and a wave of good will and good intention. This collective of positive energy is like a movement of a higher dimensional frequency, clearing paths and amplifying intentions.

It’s like riding the wave–where as the wave builds it picks up more and more energy. This energy can fuel your intentions and help move them forward and help move you into a positive state of change–which as we noted in our last post starts from within. This state of universal positive energy is a magnificent gift and should be accepted and used wisely as you make your commitments, express your intentions and start your journey of change.

Some of you reading this may say what happens when the wave crests and starts to lose its energy. In this regard, think about it in terms of the ocean. Ocean waves come rolling into the beach bringing in a flow of water and energy and when they hit the beach and rescind carry away debris. And sometimes they leave beautiful shells and sea glass. The sea shore in a way represents constant change and renewal–a wave of change and renewal.

Let the energy wave ignited by all the billions of intentions for change carry you forward and fuel you and keep with you the belief that as waves in our daily lives ebb, new waves keep rolling in behind. Let that process continue to gently move you forward.

So as the Henry David Thoreau quote says, launch yourself on every wave. Be it the wave of collective energy being put out to the universe for all of us to embrace and ride or the waves of life that help move us forward, clearing out debris and providing us gifts of discovery about ourselves that help us see the beauty in ourselves and make meaningful change.

As we stand at the beginning of a new year there is one thing to remember and to embrace — that change is constant. Or another way of looking at it is that the only constant in life is change. All life is movement, flow and change. Think about it. Seasons change, our bodies change and even the circumstances we encounter each day change. Our relationships change, work situations change, our beliefs change, our values change.

So much changes in our lives and we may not always realize it. It seems to just happen, but it was our choices, our beliefs or how we reacted to a force that caused change. There are also times that change happens from circumstances out of our control and we don’t like it, or we fear it. And there are times—like the beginning of a new year—where we consciously want to make change: lose weight, eat healthy, be more in the moment, help others, find a new job or find that something that makes us happy and impactful.

It is important that we re-orient our thinking so that we value change, and more importantly embrace it as a healthy and meaningful part of life, and to be conscious of change and how beautiful it is. It is through change that new opportunities present themselves. Change opens the door for us to be creative. It provides the stage for new roles. It pushes us to try new things and meet new people. It encourages us to learn new skills. It allows us to evolve our beliefs and to grow. It is a positive force in our lives.

It is also important to be harmonious with change and to mindfully participate in the flow or process of change. When circumstances present themselves that are not within our control, when set backs happen or obstacles are put in our path, we need to recognize and accept—and know—that we will learn and grow from these experiences.

Since change is a constant, know that there will always be fluctuations in life and we should not fear them. Through the experience of change, we find out something new about ourselves. We discover an inner strength. We reaffirm a belief or value or change a belief or value. Paramount is being conscious of and fully engaged in the process, and to let the emotions happen. It is essential to have an open heart and open mind, and to remain positive. When change is within our control, also recognize that this is a process and we also need to have an open heart and mind, and to be kind to ourselves and others as we go through the journey.

As we approach change, as we embrace it and as we live through change, it is important to look at change as a refining process that comes from within. It starts on the inside and works its way out. Regardless if your process of change is at the hands of a sudden or unexpected turn of events or a goal set by you, how and why you change comes from within you. It is a constant state of conscious self-discovery and choice, of healing, of forgiving and learning to love yourself. The way you think and what you believe turns into the life you build, and that starts with you.