Pursuit of Happiness

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“Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it.”

~ Budda


For most of us we are on a pursuit of happiness—however you may define happiness (which can take many different forms and morph over the seasons of our lives).  The founders of the United States understood the pursuit of happiness to be a fundamental right. But just because we have that freedom for that pursuit, does not mean we are always good at it. For the most part, we are passionate about happiness and some of us will go though great lengths to get it, yet the pursuit of happiness can remain elusive.

It is difficult for most people to answer yes to the question “are you happy?” One reason may be that they do not know what their values are or what they value—often because of distraction and imposed expectations (your own or others). It is easy to lose sight of what matters most in the pressures and routines of daily life. Losing focus happens.

It is worth contemplating how much of your time and energy everyday is focused on what you value most. When things are not going the way you want them to, how quickly do you return your attention to the quality of life you want to create and have?

There are many reasons why we lose focus in our pursuit of happiness. This list can be quite extensive. But overall there are a few that rise to the top and are common to most of us.

  • Money: We often confuse wants and needs and spend more than we have, putting ourselves into a cycle of debt and constant worry about finances.
  • Relationships: The company we keep can affect our behaviors for better or worse and sometimes we are in relationships that do not match our values or beliefs or are just not healthy for us. Sun rising bridge
  • Pride: We get caught up in worrying about what people think about us. It is hard to sustain an image that is different from reality.
  • Power: We want to be in control or have what we think is an “important” or influential position.
  • Entitlement: When we think we earned something and that something is “owed” to us, we often end up not making the best decisions, being angry or envious.

All these result in distraction and before we know it habits or behavior and thinking are formed and become the why we live and function—therefore impeding our own pursuit of happiness.

As your fundamental (and Universal) right to happiness, you have the power and the wisdom to break the cycle. The first step is to be completely honest with yourself. Bring your fears and your truth to the surface, face them head on and this will reveal the areas of your life for change. This will help you understand what you value most.  To help you take action, here are a few steps.

  • Contemplate and write down when you have lost your focus.
  • From the list, what is one area or a common theme that rises to the top with which you struggle the most?
  • Think about why and set an intention to make change.
  • Work consciously a little bit everyday to put the intention into thoughts, words and actions. Over the course of time the change you seek will happen and become your new norm.

The quality of your life is for you to define, create and live. Take a step back and ask yourself are you happy and if you hesitate take time to think about why and empower yourself to make a change.

The Haters

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I recently came across a quote by social media phenomena Arial Marlin “Never listen to the haters. Work hard and do what you love.”  I think of the “haters” as the critics and the naysayers. “Haters” are those who try to bring you down and try to expose your flaws in order to make themselves feel better.

The haters come in many forms. Some are direct where they tell us or others what is “wrong” with us. Some are manipulative using “constructive criticism” or some other BS politically correct language as a means to prevent us from moving forward or upward, to cause self doubt or fear. Some are passive aggressive using back-handed compliments. Regardless of their form or the context or set of circumstances, the haters try to bring you down in their misguided attempts to make themselves feel superior or one-up you.

Let’s be honest—we usually find ourselves listening to the haters. Maybe it’s because when someone verbalizes a flaw we believe we have in ourselves or expose insecurities that we carry with us everyday, we cannot but help listen to them?  But this is not a reason to listen to or be impacted by the haters. If you are upset by what someone has said, if it stirs up some emotion and it stays with you, you do need to contemplate why, and once you understand the why, move on. Recognize the haters for what they are—insecure, jealous, unhappy—all of which are low vibrating emotions.  rolling mist mountain top

The “work hard” part of the quote is interpreted as work hard for your dream. Don’t let others tell you that you can’t. Don’t let yourself tell you that you can’t or list all the reasons why not. Your dreams are yours with all the energy and enthusiasm that goes along with them. But sometimes the more energy and enthusiasm you have the more some people want to bring you down.

Remember the people that think keeping someone down are functioning under a misguided mindset that this will make them feel better about their own lives. Once you notice the behavior, you can turn down their volume. As long as the volume of your own mind is high, their words, opinions and actions will just be background noise.

“Do what you love” can be a complicated thing since most of us grew up thinking that work or doing and fun were opposites. Life had two states. People making you do things (work) and the other time being able to do what you want (play), and the latter seemed less frequent. Also, many of us get wrapped up searching for the “what we love” and confuse it with what we are passionate about.

Doing what you love can take many forms and it changes over your life.  And it does not have to be one thing. It is hard to comprehend that what we love can be multi-faceted and be many things. We put finding what we love into an endless journey and over-think it. Like many things in life, the “what you love” isn’t somewhere else, hiding where you need to find it.

Quite frankly, the answer is inside of you. It just requires some introspection, listening to what makes you feel good about yourself, what makes you feel in the flow, content or at peace. And it does not have to be some major influential or public-facing thing. It can be simple and quiet—and it is yours. So in closing do not listen to the haters. Work toward your dreams and do the many things that you love.

When in Doubt

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When one door is closed, don’t you know other is open?” – Bob Marley, Coming In From The Cold


Something that seems to effect most people, even those of us that consider ourselves positive people and that strive to think positively as much as possible is doubt. It seems to creep in on us most in times of stress, or when things are just not going right. This can have a ripple effect and affect our decision making and mood for the rest of the day, if not more even.

There can be many causes for doubt to enter our thinking, such as something not going your way, an expectation of something that does not come to pass, your body seemingly betraying you (getting sick for example), and there are of course others. Doubt can lead not only to further doubt that can pile up and weigh you down, but to even more ominouse things such as beating yourself up and depression if we let it take hold and take over.

One of the first things, that may seem counter-intuitive almost to combat doubt, is getting out of our own way. What I mean by this is first off remembering that you are human and this stuff can happen even to the best of us. Sometimes one of the most effective things we can do is to just lean back and not do anything in particular but observing what is happening.

From here, our higher Self can take over which is not caught up in emotion and we can see things more clearly.  Also we expend no energy doing this, so it is quite effortless and efficient. Doubt in a lot of cases, can be a reflection of what we think others may be thinking of us, or what we think the world is reflecting back on us. We may even start blaming things outside of our own power for our current doubtful situation. This is easy to do also, but counter-productive! water fall into pond

But if you can be aware of this, you can see the negativity you may be directing towards others or the outside world. The more you do this, the easier it is to be doubtful about yourself. Accepting responsibility that you are the only one who can make that change back to a healther mindset will come naturally if you can get out of your own way and see that you are not only the cause but also the solution.

You have to stick with yourself and believe in yourself, this is the only way. No matter how bad something may seem, if you can pull back a bit and take a deep breath, you’ll realize it’s most likely not the end of the world and there is a solution within although it may not be visible at the moment. Sometimes the answer may be not doing something as opposed to doing something. Be open to changing your way of thinking and even how you approach your lifestyle.

Talking to a friend can help as well, even if the conversation is not about the subject at hand weighing on your mind. Sometimes just stepping away from the matter mentally and discussing other totally unrelated things can open up new doorways to seeing things differently even if your friend doesn’t know it. You may also not notice it at first either… the universe works in strange ways like this sometimes.

Taking in to account also the good things you have in your life that you can be grateful for is also a powerful tool to not only help turn the tide on doubt, but will make you feel better and help refocus your energy and heal your mind/body. It may not seem easy at first, especially when in the midst of having doubt, but this is important and more powerful than you think because it will take you out of the vicious cycle that doubt can be.

Also, writing down your thoughts, especially the self-talk in how you talk to yourself in times of doubt can be eye-opening and powerful. Then Re-writing what you might be saying that is putting you in doubt in to a positive light of what great things you would rather see manifest in your life is the next thing you can do.

Undertand that your life, thoughts and mind-set ebbs and flows naturally just like the cycles of nature and doubt can be used as an opportunity for you to see things from a greater perspective in the grand scheme of things.

When You Stop . . .

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“ . . .  live everything  . . .  Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.”

~ Rainer Maria Rilke


We often address change and letting go in this blog. We have shared insights about making space in our lives—by conscious choice or not—and how to navigate periods of unknowing through reflection and coming to terms with who we are, where we are and why.

We all have seasons in our lives where what we are experiencing does not seem to make sense in the context of what preceded it and where we feel disconnected. In these periods of spaciousness it is hard to discern if we are in the process of letting go, stagnated or simply in a time in our lives of not knowing and where we need to experience the discomfort and mystery of these times—and, yes, the power of these times as they are rich and foster growth.

However, in this post I would like to talk about letting go and the periods of spaciousness from the perspective of the discomfort some experience when they no longer feel a need to or to use their usual or routine steps in their decision making, creative and overall thinking or actions. Most of us have experienced this at some level and time in our lives.

For example, someone might have been the great list maker, diligently writing down all the “to-do’s” and checking them off in sequence—but may find themselves not wanting to make the lists anymore and not making the lists anymore. Someone might have had to go through a detailed and time-consuming process of writing long-hand or typing detailed outlines and notes for a paper or presentation—but may find themselves frustrated by that process and feel de-energized by having to take those steps. man in forest mist

It really is a state or phase of personal evolution, but when in this state some feel as if they are distracted, not remembering things, or that if they do not lean on these once usual steps the outcome will not be good or that something will go wrong. They fall into judging themselves and leap to fear-based state that something is not right.

It is hard to let go of deeply instilled and some would say habit-like processes we develop over time, especially when you are in a place (e.g., work, home, school or other social setting) that expects these types of processes to be used and demonstrated.  It is difficult to trust yourself that you do not have to put yourself through the rigor and time-consuming tactical steps without some unfortunate outcome. It is hard to understand why you are feeling this way.

Look at it this way. You are growing and evolving and as you evolve you are more in-tune with the outcome, the answer or what should be done, and you no longer need to do what you once did. You are reaching a new level in your ascension where you are tapping into Universal knowledge and where your instincts will guide you.

Over the course of your life you have been cataloging an enormous amount of information. You have been taught and have developed routines, habits and processes for how you do things so much so that when you start to shed them that it feels uncomfortable and uneasy, and you may even feel that you are losing your edge. You may feel that you are losing the time-honored characteristic that seemed to be valued by others and even yourself.

The truth is you no longer need the long processes—shortcuts have been formed, deep knowledge deposited and now clear paths for access put in place. It is OK to let go of how and why you have done things. If you are increasingly experiencing this uneasiness but deep-down you know that not having to put yourself through those ingrained processes is liberating, you are on your intended path. Embrace it.

Pave Your Own Path

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“Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.”



In a time where we are compelled to follow and like others and where we are connected 24/7 to an influx of messages, ads, information, etc., we can fall into the trap of having others pave our path or set our direction. We can begin to define ourselves by the acceptance of others but not by ourselves.

Inadvertently we get influenced or distracted by what others are doing or saying and by the increasing noise around us. We may start to long to be like others, to have more things, to have different life styles, etc. We create expectations for ourselves that are not aligned with our true selves—as we have lost sight of who we are.

We live in a “cookie-cutting” factory with the aim of maintaining consistency and compliance. We live in an environment of followers, and more so, a society that rewards or recognizes following as a good or preferred thing. And social media encourages this. rocks mountains sun

It is common behavior to follow others among us. This is somewhat of a flaw in current social design, and seemingly getting worse by a world wide phenomena–fueled by social media—of measuring our selves by who we follow, who is following us and who likes us. This trap keeps us preoccupied, distracted and in-line to follow or copy others by design. In this state are we really expressing who we truly are? Are we mindlessly hitting the “like” button without contemplating what we are liking? Are we following others since it seems that everyone else is?

Yes, it is an amazing thing on one hand that we have tools that help keep us connected to those not in our physical space. But is the following of others in this online world leaving us with a false sense of connection? Is it promulgating a behavior of constantly comparing ourselves to others? Is it creating lower vibrating energies of envy and want?

We are conditioned to believe that our net worth equates to happiness, and with this many people strive to be more, do more and have more. But do these actions and things give happiness, contentment or peace?  Many strive to have more connections and see what others are doing but do so from a smart phone or computer screen and do not get out in the world. They forget to look up and look forward, and for some it keeps them looking back.

It is easy today to get caught up in following others and comparing yourself to others, and it is easy to go along with crowd. I encourage you to stop and contemplate the questions I put out in this post. I encourage you to take a different route by listening and hearing you, and to pave your own path.

Unseen Manipulation

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[The victors of WW II] introduced an all-pervasive, ultra-powerful society-shaping drug. This drug was the first of a growing group of high-technology drugs that deliver the user into an alternate reality by acting directly on the user’s sensorium, without chemicals being introduced into the nervous system. It was television. No epidemic or addictive craze or religious hysteria has ever moved faster or made as many converts in so short a time.”  — Terrence McKenna, Food of the Gods


We are living in a most interesting time, some call it the information age. But beyond that, the global changes that are occurring at this time on national, political, international, physical and spiritual levels is truly amazing. It really is an amazing time to be alive.

In this time of unparalleled access to information, some of which can liberate and free your mind (if used correctly) that was once hidden, there also is an abundance of deceptive and distorted information. We are also being bombarded with electromagnetic radiation and signals on a grand scale. Most of these signals are unseen to the naked eye, but that does not mean that they are not there. We can’t see all of the x-rays, radio waves, microwaves, infrared light, ultraviolet light, and gamma radiation etc., amongst others that permeate the world around us.

I find it interesting how much we humans rely on our sense of sight. It seems like it is the most primary and dominant of the five senses that we use daily. It almost seems like we take our other senses much more for granted as they kind of fall into a backdrop compared to our vision, which brings us vivid colors, the faces of both strangers and those so familiar to us, and the road ahead which we could not navigate otherwise.

Our seemingly most relied on sense of sight, as wondrous as it is and what it allows for us to see, can only see a small sliver of the total electromagnetic spectrum, as the visible part only makes up a small fraction of it.  To be exact, since less than 1% of all light that reaches us is in the visible spectrum, it comes out to about .0035% of the entire electromagnetic spectrum.

Taking this into account, it’s not so hard to believe that most of what is around us is unseen, although when we don’t see anything we tend to think nothing is there. Electronic devices of all kinds surround us now more than ever. Because of this, it’s easier now more than ever to be located, tracked and monitored. In this age of convenience, this can be a great thing when emergencies arise, or when we are even stranded somewhere.


On the other hand, these same devices can be used to invade our privacy, predict our behavior and make us vulnerable to attacks, both physical and virtual. It’s important that now more than ever before that we understand the scope of our own behavior when using all the new gadgets and technology available to us so we don’t fall prey to outside influences (that are both known to be harmful and even those that claim they are not).

This is such a fast time we live in now, for example if you look back only 15 years or so, cell phones were not nearly as common as they are now. Almost everyone has one now, even kids! We are almost guinea pigs in the sense that we are not even sure what this constant exposure to cellular phones is having in terms of a physical effect on our bodies.

Again we are told they are completely safe, but studies have shown that over-exposure can be harmful, especially to developing brains. Just ask yourself how you feel after being on a long phone call with your cell phone, or when you are in front of a computer screen or tv for too long. Personally I feel a negative effect as I start to get antsy, my head begins to hurt and I just feel the need to put it down and walk away.

There is only so much you can do it seems to protect yourself from all kinds of unseen manipulation both direct or indirect that occurs in this day and age, (unless you are living off the grid or close to it, or are a hermit) but we can take steps to mitigate the many harmful effects to our person, both physically, virtually and mentally. Awareness is key, just like it is and always has been when it comes to stopping being manipulated directly from a physical one on one or group dynamic interaction.

This unseen manipulation can sometimes be staring us right in our face, a prime example of this is television which was noted in the quote to start this post. Many people trust much of what they see on television regarding the news and other things such as history and documentaries etc.  There is a reason why they call it ‘programming’.

Remember like anything else, you now have the power to not only fact check, but also have access to different perspectives on topics both national and global thanks to the internet, foreign and alternate news networks, channels, websites, etc.

Getting back to nature more often, like experiencing old growth forests, natural waterfalls, gardening, camping out in nature, and just getting closer to the earth in general and disconnecting as much as possible is also a good way to break from the high tech norm and fill our bodies with much needed negative ions (yes I said negative ions).

Like a good martial artist who develops a physical and mental regimen to ward off attack and defend their person, in this high tech era, the use of new tools, access to a broader range of information than ever, and developing our awareness so we can protect ourself on a level beyond what most others are doing will serve us well.


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“I don’t like to recreate steps that I’ve already walked. I like to see if I can recreate something new.”

~ Jeffery Wright


As we move through life and this time of ascension it is tempting to long for the past and to a time and place that once was. In this current dimension, we are living in times where there is turbulence and a feeling of uncertainty of what is on the horizon. But this turbulence is a sign of the Universal evolution that is underway and enlightenment. It can feel uncomfortable as we try to make sense of it all and sense the energy shifts.

As we stand at the end of something and the beginning of something else, we often look to the past, some may want to hold onto the past and some may even try to recreate it. It is OK to look back as long as you continue to move forward. Our experiences from the past add to who we are today, but we really can’t repeat or recreate the past because we are not the same person we were in the past and the people around us, our environments and circumstances are not the same either. Our respective energies and the composition of all things around us has changed.

There is a comfort in the past, and in times of feeling uncertain, lonely, frightened or confused, we long to go back to a place where we had a transcendent experience in the hopes of recreating the magic, but we end up disappointed and empty since it cannot be recreated. The people may be the “same” or the places look the same, but it does not feel the same. time and space

The magic is not the place or the same combination of people, circumstances, etc., it was being in that moment and authentically connecting to the people and circumstances. And since all these pieces have changed, it really cannot be recreated.  It is easy to attribute our experiences to our physical surroundings rather than to our own mindful engagement with those surroundings and people.

It matters not where we are and what we are doing, if we are living in the moment and open to letting things unfold, and trust that we are meant to be right where we are at any given moment, we have the potential to feel connected, content and calm—and not just to the circumstances we think are ideal. The feeling of nostalgia from the past is rooted not in the circumstances, but in being in the moment and truly connected in the time.  We all have the potential to create and have new experiences simply by cultivating a mindful attitude and looking forward versus looking back.

Dwelling in the past will make the future fall short, keep you cycling through bad habits, unhealthy relationships and behaviors and ultimately making you feel lost.  The past shapes you, but it does not define you.  If your present is a reflection of your desire for the past and things to be how they once were, and to create the past again in your future, this is feat that is impossible. To continue to grow and live a positive life it is important to let go of what was and to celebrate what is, and embrace what is and what is to come.

Forget the End-Game

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In the Warrior Rx blog we have talked often about expectation—the expectations that have been ingrained in us from society, our upbringing, culture, etc., the expectations that others project onto us and the expectations that we even impose on ourselves. We have talked about the influence of those expectations on us as we evolve, work toward change within ourselves and the world around us and ascend.

I would like to revisit expectation again in the context of the expectation of an end—an end result, an end outcome or milestone. These all by intent or not are imbued with expectation that by something we have done, somewhere we have been, something we have seen or experienced will result in an end-game—the final stage of some action or process.

Since we live in a physical world of duality our thoughts and actions are often inadvertently shaded by have/have not, yes/no, good/bad, done/not done, etc. As we move through our lives, especially when we are intentionally working toward change, seeking a different path and dedicating our energies to an accomplishment we so often look to the end-game of those efforts, and doing so fill our heads with the thoughts of “when I finish [fill in the blank].”

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When we do this, we can easily lose sight of the path we are on and that even what may seem like the most benign encounter or experience is important and meant to be. It is often these small or uneventful encounters and experiences that contribute significantly to where we are at any given time. And sometimes we only realize the impact many months, or even years later when we reflect on our experiences and where we are in life.

I believe in having intention, manifestation and living consciously, but when the focus totally becomes the end-game you may be missing out on signals or signs, overlooking nuances and pre-occupying your thoughts with strategy on how to get to your defined end-game. There is a balance to be struck—that of understanding yourself, setting your intentions and being aware everyday of what you are thinking, doing and where you are—and not being focused on the end-game.

Remove the end-game agenda from your head and enjoy where you are, and be energized by the experiences and encounters you are having. These are meaningful and impactful pieces of your journey.

Lost in our resolute ways to complete this journey, we often misplace ourselves and miss the finest seasons of our life. As we are influenced by expectations—even with the best intent in mind—we can become pre-occupied as we are running toward some end. It is OK to stop running and to walk, and as we walk to be an observer, onlooker and spectator of ourselves, of others and where we are.

Detach ourselves from some fabricated illusion that was created so that you can become more aware and live consciously. In our grand plans of preparation, we often forget the present moment and season in which we are, and we can miss the moments that define who we are and where we are going.


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By definition readiness is the state of being ready or prepared or a willingness to do something. The concept of readiness can be interesting as you struggle with the question of am I ready—ready to strike out on your own, ready to change jobs, ready to go back to school, ready for a new relationship or to leave one that you are in, ready to start a new business, ready to [fill in the blank].

Complicating this is that sometimes we doubt ourselves, sometimes we overthink, sometimes we get lost in noise, sometimes we resist the arbitrary deadlines or expectations or the bureaucracy and processes. Uncertainty, fear and frustration can start to set in—making us think we are not ready.  shooting star 2

Not easy territory to navigate. I like to think about it in the phase of “on your mark, get ready, set, go.”

“On your mark” is staking your claim or your right to do something, to make a change, make a difference, etc. It’s about understanding yourself, knowing you have the knowledge, the courage and the mindset for what you are planning, wanting or needing to do. It is standing tall, firm and proud—and grounded.

“Get ready” is taking a deep breath to gain clarity, to clear out the doubt, fear, nerves, etc. It is moments right at the intersection of anxiety and excitement. “Set” is taking your right and stake, combining it with the clearing out of low vibrating emotions and having that moment of calm confidence. It is your state of mind, as in it is set to move into action. “Go” is taking that first small step or big leap—it’s that forward motion into action or the state of doing.

In that first act of go, you let go of the doubt, anxiety, fear and uncertainty and you move forward in a fluid motion. In the go state, you increasingly find yourself in the moments of transformation and change—moving toward you goal or next step. You have to trust in yourself and know that your Self will not let you do things for which you are not ready. Your instincts will guide you and your experience will unfold as it is meant.

Not Yet – A Season of Wait

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“Honor the space between no longer and not yet”

~Nancy Levin


Spring in the Northeast has been what seems like many false starts or grand leaps to summer like days. One day it is warm and sunny and you feel like we have turned the corner, only to wake up the next day to a gray, cold and rainy day. Not quite yet is the message. Or we fast forward to warm, humid days, where we feel like we completely missed spring only to be quickly brought back to chilly days. Yet another not yet.

For many the “not yet” space in their lives can be frustrating, challenging and uncomfortable—almost feeling like a cruel test of the Universe. Many times in these “not yet” or seasons of wait there are false starts or tempting promises that give us the impression that the wait is over and momentum in a new space will begin; or there are opportunities presented to us that are undefined, unclear and amorphous and we feel that we are waiting for things to align or gel. It does test one’s resolve. It is hard to sit in silence of the unwritten story of our lives and find comfort in this space.  pier sun

Even with intense intention, sometimes we are put in a season of wait for longer than we anticipated or want. Even with trying to make things happen, we have to wait, not even knowing what we are waiting for. In this state it is easy to lose sight of how important emptiness or space is to the creative process of our ascension and change—the potential of an empty canvas, a blank page or the pause in a musical composition.

In the not yet we can find ourselves restless and bored, and just want it to be over or at least for the Universe to give us a sign of what is after the wait—a peek into the next season.  We question why is nothing happening or getting off the ground. But in this not yet state, there is much transformation going on.

The transformation for some is within themselves—providing a season where they recreate themselves. For others, they are put in a holding pattern until the space to which they will go to make an impact or create is ready. In short, the people and circumstances they will encounter and lead have not transformed to a working or functioning ecosystem where they can make significant, radical change.

Not yet is a place of discomfort. The fine edges it presents—like between light and dark or land and sea—can give rise to impatience with ourselves or annoyance with the pieces of the Universe that have not evolved to where they are ready for us. But we must hold onto the hope and knowledge that the emergence from the wait will be rich.

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