In The Middle

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“The world is not ready for some people when they show up, but that shouldn’t stop anyone.”

Ashly Lorenzana

 

Sometimes we find ourselves feeling like we are in-between—in-between where we came from and where we will be. Yes, out of the quiet of this in-between come our true selves, especially as we check in with our souls and allow ourselves time to breath and think. But this in-between can be a trying and awkward place to be—between where you are “now” and where you will be “soon.” Some call this being in limbo. Another way of looking at it is as being in the middle.

This middle assigns the things in the world around it a greater or lesser degree of relevance or validity. It can start to form a center which all else is measured and can seem daunting when the measure is on what has been (since these are our physical experiences), and the measure can become misconstrued and influence our thinking and feeling about what will be. It can be difficult to imagine oneself in a new space—being somewhere different, doing something different, being with someone different, etc.

Some may feel not in “control” and with this their ego is threatened. The ego’s “job” is to make us believe that we are in control and to scare us into taking action to prove that we are. This threat to the ego makes us feel unsure, unfulfilled, frustrated, etc. It is hard to have patience with the unresolved state of our future and to appreciate the doors yet to open. transitions

We know that we do not want to go back to where we were and, more so, that we cannot go back since our prior Selves and circumstances no longer exist. We have more insight and knowledge about our Selves. We have clarity. But where we see our Selves being in this physical world, and where we will make an impact, is not ready for us yet. So we feel like we are on the sidelines watching the world flow by, and can even feel a lack of self-fulfillment.

We wait for our “soon” to happen and can become disheartened as the wait elongates. Being in the middle—far away from either shore of what was and what will be—is a brave but challenging place to be. When in this state, be open to the confusion, frustration, rawness and all the emotions it brings. Be willing to experience the discomfort for your new level of thinking to emerge.

The middle is an experience and place to be. Contrary to what you may feel or think, the middle is not empty or stagnate. The middle is a transitional season in our lives. It is a place to be present and an experience that evolves us. Don’t let the middle stop you from living and from being. Keep showing up even if the world is not quite ready for you because this is how you will make a difference in the world and flow into your “soon.”

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